Monday, November 25, 2013

Manipulation Sing Along

I know there are a lot of Daniel Tiger fans out there-- and I just want to make sure parents fully understand the risks of this seemingly benign television program. 

For those unfamiliar with Mr. Tiger,  it's a spin off of Mr. Rogers where Daniel Tiger is takes the trolley to and fro and experiences things that kids are often resistant to do/try.

For example:

Daniel Tiger goes to the dentist
Daniel Tiger tries a tomato
Daniel Tiger attempts baseball-- despite a rather apparent phobia of public failure.  

You get the idea.

Well our young James now uses the songs from the show to try and get us to exhibit a characteristic advantageous to him.     The other day James destroyed his bedroom while looking for a specific football jersey and was told that he needed to clean up prior to dinner.*   While half-hearted cleaning he started singing:  "Friends help each other yes they do it's true."   He'd pause then look up and try again. "I said: Friends help each other yes they do it's true."

Nice try buddy.

*And possibly try the dreaded tomato.

Friday, November 22, 2013

Lil Man

Our baby turns four tomorrow.   Understatement: time flies.  

We are having so much fun with our little family and are so thankful for the grace, humor and honesty that James brings into our lives. 

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

As Fate Would Have It

 The last few months were challenging for me personally.  I was conflicted about my career and life's work.  (As in the two didn't align.)

I also had a lot of personal dynamics at play-- including the adoption of a special little boy.  So for as much as I wanted to be gung ho abut my career, I had an incredible feeling that now wasn't the time.  Priorities are a bitch huh?*

Well, after several month of informational interviews, networking and exploration I am happy to announce two things:
  1. I have better idea about what sort of work I want to do and am on my way to building a career in that area. 
  2. I received the kick in the butt I needed to do it.  I was laid off. **

As my friends and family know-- this was expected.  We often see reductions this time of the year and I suspected that the work my team was engaging in wasn't going to fit the direction of the firm long term.  We have also had significant management overhaul with several new leaders and after a while two and two weren't going to add up to anything other than four.

So this is where the fates come in for me.  Most of the big decisions or changes in my life are the result of some mysterious intervention.***   Sometimes the universe whispers and sometimes it yells.  I am hearing the latter.

So, this is a good thing.  We have some exciting things underway for us personally and for me professionally. (No announcement yet, but be excited, people.)    What is in many ways is a bit of rocky news is actually more of a blessing.

This is ironically the year of faith for us.   Going to put some stock in that one.

More to come people.

*In some senses, I think there is some truth to this statement.  I had an intense desire to make a significant career change but knew it wasn't the time.  With adopting however, you spend many, many months and years thinking that this very awesome thing could happen any minute.  Purgatory.

**My whole team actually.  boo.  It's a nice re-assurance though that it wasn't performance based but more a reflection of a re-org.

***Matt thinks I paid off my guardian angel.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013


Matt is following his November tradition by looking like a pedophile.* 

I told Matt that in honor of men's health,  I too will be following a no shave policy. 

Happy Movember/NoSexTember Everyone!

*Coincidentally while working in the ped's ward. 

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Lucy, you say

A couple weeks ago James and I talked about our future family plans.  For the record James would like five more babies* and a dog. 

Now before you get all judgy-- know that we do take his opinion seriously but the tall fitzes will be making the ultimate call on this.

In light of this five babies and another dog conversation. . . James has recently taken the conversation to the next level.  As in telling people about this phantom puppy that is to join our life.**

So let's talk about the puppy.  Lucy.  Lucy is a puppy that is black, white and brown.  She likes to eat hot dogs and play ball.

I don't know where he got the idea for this-  but it's a fairly well formed idea in his little noggin.

*To clarify-- Since Simon, James now believes all babies come from the airport and we can just go pick one up whenever.   If this was the case, the hurdle toward parenthood has been lowered considerably.   

**We'll see. Maybe the airport has a special on puppies too.  Puppies that are toilet trained and past the chewing phase. And do laundry.  That sounds like my kind of puppy.

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Face Lift

We are getting our house painted!  It was long, long. long overdue.  We had originally planned to wait until next year so that we could space out our surprise roof and this work-- but we decided to go ahead and do it now so that it would be all set prior to the winter.   (And hopefully, we will have a maintenance free 2014.)   You can see from the color selection,  it's a truly dramatic transformation.
old grey on the left, fabulous new grey on the right
Our life in a fishbowl

Friday, November 1, 2013


James originally wanted to be a ghost-- a FRIENDLY ghost.  But while at Target a couple weeks ago pretty packaging and superhero brands prevailed. *

"Mom, I think I found something here that you should take a look at. . . . Wolverine is a nice guy right?"  

Sure is, kiddo.     It's important to note that he is wearing an 8 year old size and he turns 4 next month.

*And there were no obvious friendly ghost costumes.