Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Into the Fire

Sometimes I look around my house and think to myself:

 “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity. . . “

I had a great talk with a friend the other night about patience and children. I think there are a lot of people who romanticize parenting when the reality is that it’s really, really tough. Thank god for candid talks with honest friends.

I must be in an introspective mood these days because I have been thinking a lot about what our life is going to look like with three little ones. Yes, I will look like a pre-school class when I am out and about. Yes, I will need to find a true plan of attack to tackle the grocery store with 2 kids that don’t walk yet and one that walks but is often spirited, and Yes, I know that meal times will become a grape-cutting assembly line.

But Y’all. It’s supposed to be fun and I fully intend to do my best to love the little life I have created.

Maybe it’s the addition of the third, but I have been flooded with advice again—well, maybe not advice as much as cautionary comments*. People who know me well know that I have always wanted a large family and that I have always seen this family as one that grows through adoption. People who don’t know me well feel the need to tell me how hard my life is going to be.
So let’s talk candidly—is it tough—HECK yes. But it’s also totally awesome. I am really hoping to remember that as the busy-ness of our family increases and not get too bogged down by the nay-sayers. I think we are creating something beautiful over here—something that I am really proud of. . . . and I am hoping that these busy years aren’t just about surviving but are also about thriving.

I do think we young mum’s need to cut each other some slack—what works for one kid may not work for another and what works for one family may not be the same choice for another fam. I don’t think there are a lot of universal statements in this biz. For us, things are working ok and we are doing like everyone else—making the best possible choices we can.

So for my friends who may feel like they are in the fire—you’re not alone—we all have good days and bad days—let’s all hang in there together and make our little people journey awesome.


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